Bereaved Parents Scholarship Recipient Announced

The foundation is pleased to announce that

Terry Wigington from Oklahoma is the

recipient of our first BP USA Scholarship.

Wishing you a very healing, hopeful and helpful event.  

Terry’s story begins on June 9, 2009 when he lost his son Seth in a an accident.  Here is Terry’s journey.

My name is Terry Wigington.  I lost my son Seth in an accident on June 9, 2009.  That was by far the hardest thing I had ever been through.  I didn’t have any kind of support, so I just basically dealt with it the best way I knew how.

In 2010, I married Dana, my long time friend.  She struggled with trying to understand some of my ways and the nights I would wake up sobbing, the waves of anger and sadness.  It seemed she had more questions then I had answers, it was a bit of a struggle and strain on our marriage from the beginning.  She wanted to help, I wanted to be left alone, and I just told her she would never fully understand the pain I was going through.

On May 28, 2011, it was a Saturday and I was at work.  I received a call from Dana and she was crying hysterically.  As I tried to understand what she was telling me, my heart just sank.  Her oldest son Dylan was camping at the lake with some friends and they called her to say that they couldn’t find him and they had called the dive team out.  As I waited for her to get to my work, I prayed that it was all a mistake, thinking this couldn’t be happening again.  After an hour or so they found him and now she will know, she will know the pain, the heartbreak – everything I never wanted her to know.   

Everyone’s reaction was, “I am so glad that Dana has you” or “God placed you guys together so you could be there for each other.”  I believe that myself, but it doesn’t make it any easier on me, her, us, our marriage.  At this point, I am not really sure what is going to happen, what we are going to do.  I am struggling still to be strong for myself, I am not sure if I have it in me to be strong enough for both of us.

Dana handles things so much different than I do; she immediately said we have to do something to help other parents that go through this.  So we started a Parent Support group.  I wasn’t near as excited about it as she was, and to be honest with you – I tried everything I could to get out of the first meeting, but she insisted that I attend.  To my surprise, I felt so much better afterwards.  I finally opened up a little and I couldn’t believe the difference it made.  We had a small group of 5-10 people, but we felt the need to reach more, so we just recently started the first chapter of BP/USA in Oklahoma.  We are known as the Central Oklahoma Chapter.  I am very excited about this and looking forward to going to the National Gathering in July.  I am hoping to learn a lot, and be able to come back and share my experience with others.

Thank you for listening to my story.   

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